The Self-Harm Directory

October 07, 2013 | 12:38 AM |

Anonymous asked: should I get my husband to see someone about eating his fingernails way pass the end of his exposed nails? He doesn't think there is any thing wrong with it. He is eating the skin around the nails. He also cuts into his toe nails until they bleed. He said he has ingrown toe nails, He is a diabetic and has caused a lot of trouble with his toes to the point of near loosing one. I am at a lost as to what to do, I told him I was not working to get any more of his self imposed wounds well.

Get him help. No matter how much you say to him if it hasn’t reached him yet it won’t until he is ready to accept it and sometimes it easier to accept help from an outside source then someone close to you. Definitely get your husband to see someone but tread carefully because this would of compulsive harming of ones self sometimes leaves an individual unwilling to accept help.

October 30, 2012 | 11:34 PM |

craziness-is-a-warm-gun asked: i started cutting bout 2 months ago, my family is destructing itself, people bully me at school and i just cant stand it anymore, last night my dad hit my sis & just the thought of it makes me cut again i feel so lonely, i hurt inside, i feel like im breaking, i got no more hope and my fake smile is starting to fade away & im so tired to act like im ok when i hate myself.Everyone thinks im ok cus im always smiling & in a good mood, but no one looks furder than that fake happiness

I’ve been doing that for years. You just have to take life day by day. Find reasons to not cut but remember while I don’t encourage cutting it is a coping mechanism. Keep moving forward and eventually (though it may take years) things get better and life gets a little easier.

October 30, 2012 | 11:32 PM |

Anonymous asked: I have to go to the doctor's soon so how should i hide my scars? foundation doesn't cover how bumpy they are

sweat shirt maybe? i have similar scars and going to the doctor hasn’t given me issues in the past

October 03, 2012 | 05:51 PM |

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August 09, 2012 | 01:09 AM |

New Additions

scarstearsburns written by a 16 year old self harming, depression ridden teen wh posts her feeling and relogs things which connect to her
birthingpyre I’ve been struggling with self harm, in multiple methods (cutting, scratching, carving, burning, bruising) for six years.
recedentia Mountains and Bridges
thisisa-suicide Hi, I’m Raven. I’m a cutter and my blog really expresses that. I’m not actively trying to stop, and I don’t have any plans to. But I am here if anyone ever needs to talk. So… yeah.

Blog Name Changes
o-b-l-i-o is now deepest-seas

August 01, 2012 | 10:45 PM |

Anonymous asked: Today was the first day i ever cut, i had to, i made myself do it. My boyfriend says he wants to take a break, and i don't know if that means break up or just space, i gotten so upset and scared. I took the pain away by cutting. I don't want to do it again, but i need someone to talk to, like im in pain and i don't know what to do.

First off, I apologize for the late reply.
second, don’t cut again! Self-harm is a coping mechanism but it is also destructive and addictive. I speak from experience when I say quiting takes years. There are a number of sites that are nonjudgmental and will talk to you and help you figure things out. is my favorite and is good as well. Finding someone to talk to who you trust is often the most effective option so I urge you to find someone trustworrthy to speak with. I’m always happy to listen as well. I answer questions here and on my personal blog

July 25, 2012 | 12:59 PM |

Anonymous asked: THANK YOU, SO SO SO SO MUCH!

My pleasure. Happy to be helpful.

July 25, 2012 | 12:36 PM |

viginti-tres asked: To anon: if you don't have butterfly tape just laying around, cut the adhesive from a bandaid into small strips to see if that holds it together...

thank you for your input :)

July 25, 2012 | 12:20 PM |

Anonymous asked: you made me calm, thank you SO MUCH! so, abt the cocoa butter, how does it works? and can i use any healing tape?

i honestly don’t know from experience because I’ve never tried to fade my scars. I know it comes as a creme and if applied regularly I’ve been told it will fade scars.
And from what I know most kinds of medical tape can be used in this case but use it sparsely because it could reopen the cut when removed.
Just remember I’m not a medical professional. All I can impart is honesty in the things I’ve picked up over the years.

July 25, 2012 | 12:03 PM |

Anonymous asked: I NEED HELP! I just cut and my skin its REALLY open, please idk what do to. It was just one cut, i need help. I dont want a BIG scar :( people is gonna see it oh god

First you need to stop whatever bleeding there is and i would recommend using butterfly tape to hold the wound shut if that doesn’t work seek medical help in case you need stitches. After that keep it clean and don’t pic at it. All you can do until it heals at that point is hope for the best. After it heals there are a variety of things that can fade scars. Cocoa butter is one of those things.

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